It’s easy to be compassionate towards others, but when it comes to ourselves we are often our own worst critics. Turning negative self-talk into words of encouragement and understanding will make you happier and less anxious when you run into mistakes. Better yet, according to the Journal of Research in Personality, those who have self-compassion are not only happier; they are also more successful. As much as we all wish we were Superman or Wonder Woman, the reality is that no one is perfect 100% of the time, or even 25% of the time, so cut yourself some slack and don’t sweat the small stuff!
Keep the “Big Picture” in Mind
When you focus on the grand scheme of things, you are less likely to react negatively to challenging situations. Linking small actions to a greater purpose can help you to stay motivated and continue on through trivial times. For example, someone who understands the "Big Picture" will view working after hours at the office as a necessary action to get ahead in his or her career; while someone who is focused on immediate satisfaction may view this as a pointless setback to his or her day.
Add When and Where to your To-Do List
Staying organized and creating an achievable plan is one of the best steps you can take towards defeating stress and (hopefully) avoiding it altogether. The more detail you can put into your To-Do List, the more likely things will actually get done. Making the list is the easy part, but too often days go by without any of the tasks being crossed off. Take your To-Do List and add a specific when and where to each task. This will help you seize the moment and get things done when they need to be.
For more ideas on how to manage and defeat stress, check out these three tips.